Chesterfield Mother Applauds Hospice Family Support Group for Helping Daughter Through Grief
A Chesterfield mother has publicly praised Ashgate Hospice for its Family Support Group, which provided crucial assistance to her four-year-old daughter following the death of her grandmother. Ellie Hartshorn emphasized that hospice care extends far beyond the end of a loved one's life, offering sustained support to families navigating loss.
Navigating Grief with Professional Guidance
Ellie's mother, Ann, passed away at just 50 years old after battling liver disease and pancreatitis for several years. Described by her daughter as a kind and loving individual, Ann had a particularly close bond with her granddaughter, Sophie-Jane, who was only three years old at the time. Ann died just three days before Sophie-Jane's fourth birthday, leaving the young child struggling to comprehend the concept of death.
Ashgate Hospice stepped in to provide comprehensive bereavement support. Sophie-Jane received one-to-one counseling sessions at her school, allowing her to express and understand her emotions in a safe and familiar environment. This personalized approach helped her process her feelings without facing the challenge alone.
The Vital Role of the Family Support Group
Ellie and Sophie-Jane also began attending the hospice's monthly Family Support Group, a dedicated space where children can connect with peers who understand their experiences. Through engaging activities and shared discussions, the group fosters a sense of community and reduces feelings of isolation.
"It really helps my daughter being around other children who understand what it's like when someone close has died," Ellie explained. "She's able to talk about how she feels, and she knows she's not alone." The sessions have become an integral part of Sophie-Jane's grief journey, helping her cherish memories of her grandmother while learning to cope with her absence.
Transforming Perceptions of Hospice Care
Ellie highlighted that many people mistakenly believe hospice care concludes when a patient dies. However, her family's experience demonstrates that support continues for bereaved relatives. "People often think hospice care is just about the end of someone's life," she noted. "But it's so much more than that. The support doesn't stop when someone dies."
This reassurance has been invaluable to Ellie's family, providing stability during a difficult period. Ann remains a cherished presence in their lives through photographs, shared stories, and the enduring bond she formed with her granddaughter.
Expert Insights on Youth Bereavement Support
Clair Russell, Children's and Young People's Service Manager at Ashgate Hospice, elaborated on the group's objectives. "The group gives children and young people a chance to have fun, make friends, and feel understood, while gently supporting them as they navigate an illness or the death of someone close to them," she stated.
"We create a relaxed, welcoming space where they can take part in arts and crafts, enjoy sports and physical activities, and unwind with games consoles and group games. There is no pressure to speak, but we are always there to listen if and when they want to talk. It also helps them feel less alone in what they are going through, building confidence and connection with others who share similar experiences."
Encouraging Others to Seek Help
Reflecting on her journey, Ellie urged others to accept available support. "I would always advise people to accept the help offered," she said. "Don't ever feel like you're alone. There are people there, who are not just for the person who is ill, but for the whole family, even after they're gone."
Ashgate Hospice provides care for individuals with life-limiting illnesses across North Derbyshire, with its Family Support Group serving as a cornerstone of its bereavement services. The program underscores the hospice's commitment to holistic family care, extending compassion and practical assistance long after a loved one's passing.
