Nadia Houghton, a mum from Birmingham, has shared a heartfelt mental health message weeks after the sudden death of her son, Ben Watton, a scaffolder from Northfield. The 38-year-old, who moved to Torquay for work in 2022, died on August 6, leaving two communities in mourning.
Speaking to BirminghamLive, Nadia described Ben as having a "kind heart, a big personality and an infectious laugh." She said the loss has been devastating, with nearly £10,000 raised for his funeral next month. A celebration of his life is scheduled for September 11, with many from the Devon town expected to pay their respects.
A mother's plea for help
Nadia urged people "to ask for help" and for parents to "check on their child." She said: "My name is Nadia and I'm doing this interview in memory of my beautiful son Ben who recently passed. No parent should ever have to lose their child, yet that is now my reality. Ben was a loving father, a caring brother and a loyal friend to so many."
"He had a kind heart, a big personality and an infectious laugh to match. He had everything to live for, which is why I will never understand, and that is my worst pain. My hope is that by telling Ben's story, people understand that mental illness is often silenced. Someone can be smiling on the outside while falling apart on the inside."
Legacy and remembrance
Nadia emphasized that Ben's legacy could make a difference. "If Ben's story encourages even one person to ask for help, one parent to check on their child, or one decision maker to fight for better mental health services, then his legacy will continue to make a difference."
Ben was a "deeply-loved" father, brother, and son. Nadia said: "Ben was so much more than the way he died. He was deeply loved by all in Birmingham, all in Torquay and he will be deeply missed for the rest of our lives. His name deserves to be remembered, not because how we lost him, but because of who he was."
Support and next steps
The fundraiser for Ben's funeral has raised nearly £10,000, with donations supporting the family. Nadia's message concludes: "There are many parents out there with children struggling like Ben and I pray you get the help they desperately need. In loving memory of my son, Ben Watton. Taken too soon."
For anyone affected by mental health issues, Samaritans can be contacted for free, day or night, 365 days a year, on 116 123, or visit samaritans.org to find your nearest branch. For further support regarding eating disorders, visit beateatingdisorders.org.uk.
