While Christmas is marketed as a season of joy, for many it brings a significant wave of stress and anxiety. A wellbeing expert is urging Britons to manage their expectations, as new figures reveal that more than two in five people feel overwhelmed during the festive period.
The Pressure of the 'Perfect Christmas'
Lynn Crilly, author of 'Hope with Depression', has developed a practical strategy to help people cope with the heightened emotional, social, and financial demands that peak at this time of year. She warns that the relentless bombardment of idealised imagery—from social media posts to television adverts showing picture-perfect families in matching pyjamas—fuels unrealistic expectations.
"Despite it being such a happy and exciting time for most, one in four of us have said we struggle with anxiety or depression at this time of year," Crilly states. She notes that these feelings are particularly acute among those who are unemployed, divorced, or widowed, often linked to the stark contrast between their reality and the marketed fantasy.
Research supports this, indicating that Christmas-related low mood is frequently tied to the belief that everyone else is happier and more connected. In fact, 19% of people report a fairly negative impact on their mental health, with 7% experiencing a 'very negative' impact.
Practical Strategies for a Calmer Holiday
Crilly emphasises that planning ahead is a powerful tool against festive anxiety. Her core advice is to focus on what is personally manageable and meaningful, rather than striving for a commercially-driven ideal. She offers several key recommendations for a more peaceful season.
Keep expectations realistic. Actively avoid comparing your Christmas to the curated scenes presented in media. Concentrate on what works for you emotionally and financially.
Maintain a positive outlook. Resist starting December with the assumption that everything will go wrong. Taking each day as it comes often leads to a better experience than anticipated.
Dare to break tradition. If the usual routine fills you with dread, change it. Crilly shares her own experience: "Last year, we had a barbecue on Christmas Day and it was great fun." The change was so successful they plan to repeat it.
Prioritise what truly matters. Do not exhaust yourself perfecting decorations, gifts, or social calendars. The core value of the season is quality time, including essential moments for yourself.
Consider volunteering. Helping others can provide valuable perspective and boost your own wellbeing. Simple acts like keeping someone company or assisting locally can make a profound difference.
Identify and avoid stress triggers. Reflect on which people or situations elevate your stress levels and give yourself permission to step back. "Live by your limits and triggers for a peaceful mind," Crilly advises.
Seeking Support is a Strength
Finally, the expert underscores that reaching out for help is a sign of strength, especially during the holidays. Support networks are available, and it is crucial to use them. The charity SANE runs a helpline 365 days a year, from 4pm to 10pm, on 0300 304 7000.
Crilly's overarching message is one of permission: "Christmas, whatever you’re doing and whoever you are with, is meant to be a time of peace, rest and relaxation for everyone, including you." By consciously managing expectations and focusing on personal wellbeing, the festive season can become more manageable and genuinely enjoyable.
